Chase goals or party?


So what is it about the world’s obsession with goals, are goals really goals or they gaols. Now in old style English language. The difference between a goal and a jail is just a letter “a”. Very, very similar and sometimes I know that goals can feel like that (jail) to a lot of us. They’re good and we know we need to do them, but they can really mess with our heads so what I look into… not so much where the goals are worthwhile are not worthwhile but keeping them into some kind of perspective. The thing about goals is that they tend to focus on success so did you get to the goal. Yes, you did you’re a hero you’re on National TV. You won a meddle whatever it is that the Olympics all great. I think the parties can teach us a lot about life and work. Let’s look at how party gets constructed first thing you do is you have an idea basically a party is a project by any other term it’s a project you have an idea and you think okay great I’m gonna have a party for whatever reason, then you go along and you think, I’ve got to plan something so you put together your checklist so you go through the checklist and you go out and you do your shopping and you prepare your food. Whatever you need to do all great, then people arrived and you change in and you have your drinks and you have a great all time the party is underway and at the end you’ve got a cleanup that’s really not different to any other project plan. It’s no different to a career. I wanna be a champion cyclist. I’m going have to do these training sessions I’m going to have to prepare like this, here’s my race and then afterwards I gotta recover it applies to an IT Project, it applies to life itself, the thing about the party is that it’s not a thing where you can plan for the peak moments now yes, you’d like the party to have peak moments and you would like many peak moments, but you won’t necessarily have them… the party could be a complete dud but you would like some peak moments but along the way you’re going to also have throughs you’re going to have these in a project in life and in a party, so the thing about the party is that when you go into it you don’t know how it’s going to look. It could be a flat line along the bottom. It’s probably not going to be always screaming along with top and it’s not going to be a mid line. It’s going to have its waves and you can’t think of a party as being an event which was just the peak moment it’s more than the peak moment Allan Watts the famous 1970’s English philosopher, likened life to being like a dance, he said you don’t have a dance for the sake of the end, you don’t have a dance for the sake of the beginning. You have the dance for the dance It’s the same for a concert or a play or any other activity. You don’t go to the concert for the end or the beginning or for that one note or guitar solo in the middle. You go for the whole process so you go to the dance for the dance. You go for a walk for the walk. You don’t go for a walk to the end point or the beginning. You go for a walk for the walk. You go for a jog for the jog it’s the same with the party the party is going to have a life of It’s going to have all of this, and your life is going to have all of this, but with goals we tend to focus on the high points. We know that’s a happy point. We know that’s a sad point, but then what’s the Middle point should we just say let’s flat line, along the Middle in the everything is going to be cool. No that would be really boring just to have this flatlined life flatline is death by virtue of just living your inner wave you’re in sound waves, light waves all sorts of vibrations are going on in the world and they’re represented by the activities that we undertake, including our work, including customer service, interaction A customer will hang in there with you for the whole process. Now, although they might have had to wait too long at the beginning or a little bit longer the cashier or you didn’t have the exact product or whatever it was they’re going to look at it as the whole activity. What we do is we look back so you don’t judge as you’re going through the activity you judge after these things happen and that’s when the judges, mantle comes down, you say, oh okay, that was good or bad or whatever, but you can’t go judging while you’re in the activity doing that’s gonna Crazy because you could be finding yourself here or here as opposed to there or there, that’s gonna, give you false dawn. That’s going to give you a real, pessimistic outlook on it. Now. One point I really want to stress here is that this wave has got an interesting characteristic when it comes to life and let’s look at it from a party perspective you are as an attendee of the party, even whether you organized it or not, you’re going to be a participant in that you’re going to be swept up by the way and you’re gonna be dragged down if this thing doesn’t work so you’re bobbing along the top of this wave, like a cork in a storm, you’ve, got actually very little control over that. However, at the same time and this is where the cork analogy falls over you are not only riding the wave but you’re also ‘the’ wave, so you’re both you’re one of the people in this party you’re, one of the people contributing to whether it’s working or not. You’re, one of the people contributing to this team so you’re, not only being ridden by the wave and somewhat victim to it, but you’re also part of the wave And making other people victim to it or successful as a result, so the big take away I’d like to leave you with here is that point that you are always the wave and on the wave, whether it’s work or life also that you can’t judge where you are at a particular point in time because you don’t know if that point is gonna be higher or the low points gonna be lower. You just can’t have perspective when you’re in the Middle of something so when you’re in the Middle of a project you’ve just got to grind away and do the right things you’ve got to do the things that you know you need to do. You don’t have time to judge Judgment is really the greatest distraction. You can have from doing a great job or having a great life. Let it pan, out, you’ve done your preparation you’ve done your planning you’ve done all those things you had a great idea. Let it pan out it may not work but may, just thinking about whether you’re constantly down here is only going to get in your way again. I’m Steven Di Pietro and thanks for tuning in

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