Contentment (Bhante Cakkapala)



okay good evening everyone so West our Dhamma talk by reciting in the mortis a three time no more tears up cover to arahato samma sambuddhassa namo tassa bhagavato arahato samma sambuddhassa namo tassa bhagavato arahato samma sambuddhassa okay good evening everyone our topic today is the contentment when I was 40 or 50 years old I used to read a lot of biographies or the famous mines so in that way inspire find their biographies and I'm happy to become like them I want to become like them so by the time I take one of my photo by looking at my photo I mean we can't disappoint it and depressed the reason is I am intended by that time I am very ugly so buying thinking in that way and I also did that if I stay as a bank in Buddha seen in this asana it were disgrace susannah so and in such an ugly people like me shouldn't be a bank so that is mine thinking then untold mine teacher I went to this top I went to Lee in a monastic life the mind is I asked me why because I am ugly my digit old me that is it your reason to disturb that is a yes it is serious by the time so the reason is and then that if I'm stay as a Buddhist monk and then it will be it is grace force asana so people in that an ugly monk like me a member of Susannah so I think there is a very serious thought in mind are so when I was in forty and fifty years old then my teacher told me you are not the only one in Sasha so there are many mang's who are uglier than you by here in such encouraging what I be continued to be able is man up to now so I realized that there are many mines in South Anna who are uglier than me so that the reason so by the time I don't have contentment with my appearance for the reason I'm free depress Fe dissatisfied with my appearance so if you ask me right now I don't have in such when I'm satisfied with my appearance so not because I'm become more handsome but because my understanding my understanding is Kadeem higher and higher right because of my understanding not because of my appearance actually my appearance is the same more or less the same but my understanding regarding with the appearance not the same so I have contentment regarding with my appearance right now I think that is very important because of that I don't have any depression I do have any dissatisfaction regarding with my appearance right so to be happy to have happiness contentment is a very crucial part in our life actually everything the same regarding with the appearance regarding with your position regarding your way regarding with the word anything right if you do not have contentment you will not be happy so for that reason and in that today our topic is contentment but we can say that this is the houn to be happy right and to get happiness in our life if you are contented passing regarding with your position regarding with the property regarding with your status in your environment regarding with your salary regarding with your appearance everything right if you have contentment you are happy you're very happy so today we talked about how to be happy actually this title was given to me by India Lily so actually this is a very popular a very common topic many people have been talking about this topic if you find out Guga UFE you will see so many right so I think that but today I will talk about based on Buddhist understanding regarding with the contentment so I think not ah we can we can even say that how to be happy how to find happiness in our life so that me if you have contentment then you will be happy and then that is very important but we should know to have a better understanding what is contentment so today my job is to define what is contentment according to Buddhist perspective then if you understand so what is contentment in borås een then you can apply in your daily life so I hope that like me you will be can happier person right happier person regarding with your appearance or recording with your possession anything right anything so here we have a to tagline so this one is not not written by me is written by mr. Chen very beautiful and he so when I give a topic mind my intimate talk content mine and he write this one he keep it to me is very beautiful he gave me very beautiful questions two questions number one why are you so happy even though you have let dance others Sambi be happy even though they have Latin data so we have to find out the reason why many very good question so we already we already have the answer so the answer is contentment I did know I have given the answer but he has question for me neither one why are you so happy even though you have more than others you are more beautiful more handsome than other you are richer than Adam you are higher than regard to status position you are more famous why you are not happy the reason is you don't have contentment and then the answer is already given so today actually I highlight what is contentment according to Buddhism if you know the definition of contentment and then you can apply right you can apply any in your daily life so when I was young 15 even up to 23 years old so I'm not satisfied with my appearance with my look I always did that I'm ugly but right now I don't have such a feeling but I really fully accepted I'm fully accepted and of course I do know oh I went to have I went with more handsome appearance more attractive appearance so if I have a good-looking and attractive and appealing to other people I can do more but right now I'm contented with my appearance so no way does mine karma right that's mine Karma so I have to continue I have to satisfy with my appearance so then for me regarding with the appearance so I don't have any depression I'm fully accepted for that reason I am happy I'm happy with this so that is a contentment right so I think very important here let's look at what is contentment normally within that container is largely depend on what you have so that is not wrong but it's not 100% correct of course containment containment is are largely depend on what you have if people have more than others they are happy this that is fine right so the reason is what we have to see is how long that satisfying last right so here people normally think that contentment is largely connected with what what you belong to and what you have but it is you are attitude it is your attitude to all your belongings that is very important how did you change you our attitude change your status or your happiness right that is very embody so yeah contentment is not what you have it is attitude to what what you have that is purely mental one so as we have to see the two questions so some people are happy right even though they have let another because of contentment some are not happy even though they're more than others the reason is they don't have contentment so for that reason it is nor about or not cuneta with what you of course it is a largely caneta with what you have but it is just mental attitude attitude to where you are belongings whether you be a little more many or large amount of money so it depends on your attitude I think that is very important if you are happy and satisfied with what you have it is called contentment so that is my definitions based on Buddhist teachings so when you are satisfied with your appearance with your belongings with your status with your fame or praise anything negative or positive possessions what you have it is depends on what you see you are attitude so if you are satisfied with this you will continue have a contentment some people have cancer even they are satisfying with the cancer we can call them they are contented people even the negative things right some people may have a lot of problem but even though they don't have a lot of problem and thus a bit and they satisfy with this so in that way we can call them they are a contented baby so here whether negative or positive ones so if you are satisfying with this if you accept it you can we can call it you are going to the passing you have a contentment you fail in your business you fill in your eyes and then you fully accept it so we can call you are contented person if you a SAP it there's no depression no suffering in your mind right actually a suffering depression and negative part of our emotion depend on our attitude some people even though they fit in there am and not a problem they are all the time habitually passing right habitually parsing the Samba pay after filling in the am the commit suicide it depends on attitude right attitude but here so and I'm not saying that contentment is nothing to do with your belongings of course it is largely Kaneda with our belongings normally when we have a lot so we have a satisfaction that is largely canary with but I think the most important part of contentment is our attitude to our what we belong to but yeah anytime if you have a question just raise your hand right some we allow you to us even during our mind talk so in this way we can clarify more okay so that is the busy definition of contentment but here's another one from tama pata so this is a very famous teachings of the border recording with the contentment the Mara first number two zero four two zero four and what I said that had it high gain and in Singaporean fully agree on that right so health is more important than a bit in the number to continue is the greatest word I don't know whether you believe or not and yet that is what the Buddha saw what the Buddha said regarding with contentment so even though you are very very wealthy even though you are very rich if you do not have contentment you are step or we can say that of course our sound you see the attitude of people so when they get more money they were more when they when they get you know the amount that that and they were more they were more right so there's tape or we can say that so according to the border the greater width is contentment so the moment you have contentment you are aware the bouncing you are a rich person you don't need anymore so actually we need to clarifying this fact so I then along the way I think you will understand what I what the ball I want to see right then our code other teachings or the border what do me bind that right so content is the graded weather with sent ot paramount and then the treaded are the tread the trustor people are the best gains men right so if your friend is just a passing the Baskins man your relative right sometimes the the relative are not trust apibe in so if you have the trust of ebay outside so they are you are kinsmen Nibbana it the high list of course I'd in as the bodies are so the neighbor honor if you attain a bona you don't need anything if you attend a partner you don't need anything so that me whoever you are wherever you have wherever you are so to who wherever you with you'll be happy all the time if you attain a bond so for that reason the Nibbana is the high place so here what I want to highlight is the second one the contentment is the greatest wealth so here we need to know what is contentment right what is contentment then this is the item were not the best definition of contentment according to Buddhism so this is a not taught by in the border but top buying commentators top binder commentators looking at what the Buddha said in the Pali Canon so what is contentment number one once you not regret the past very important one so this is the three criteria contentment according to terracotta commentaries so this teaching was the commentary said that number one once you not regret the past normally we have our past right some are good some are not good some are positive some are negative so regarding with the past do not react that me if you'll regret you don't have a contentment that is very important regarding with your job you might have regret and remorse if I have study at the university that I weigh I will have a higher post and higher possession then if I'm finished master degree doctorate degree I will have more money right more salary like this sometime if you are thinking about your past you might have regret and re most so that is a sign of discontentment right you don't have a contentment so here the first criteria of contentment is do not do not regret the past whether you're good or bad a Sabbath fully accepted as I earlier said that so I'm interesting to be honest II not good luck in passing I wanna see the ugly no good looking pass him but anyway I'm fully as habit so in this way then I have a contentment regarding with my my past so I no regrets no remorse at all so that is one of the criteria states of number two once you're not long for the future if you look at only this particular line so you will miss enterprise teachings of the Buddha you might think that we'd only too long for the past the future no need to think about the future you might think that right it's not so you can think about the future and you can think about your past but no regret no worry no negative mental state when you are thinking about your past your future so buying thinking about our past experiences we can get lessons right we can get our our lessons or whether they are good or bad so we can learn from the past so when you are thinking about your past so no negative minted state then we can think about our future as well so when you are thinking about your future no worry no depression no anxiety at all but when you are thinking about your future fully aware and fully mindful to criteria right you can think about your past as well at the future so if you are very mindful when you are thinking about future and past so when you are fully aware of it there's no negative mental state no regret no worry no anxiety at all so you can think both past and future but here so should not regret right when you are thinking about your past and secondly should not long for the future normally as a young people we long for the future what will happen in the future try hard right trying hard so when they can wait they cannot do anxiety worry fear came in then when they can do Pride and conceit came in their mind right so I think that so when we are thinking about our future fully mindful I'm fully aware of it so no negative mental state just like anxiety depression worry etc right so in that in that way you can think about your future but here we should not learn for the future second criteria and the last one one should be satisfied with the present I think that is the most important way one should be satisfied with the present if you are 50 years old that is fine with your age right if you are staying that is fine with you are each if you are 60 70 don't regret what you have done in the past do not have any anxiety or worry for the future stay in the present moment satisfying with your age satisfying where you are now satisfying with your house that you are staying on and that is fine with your job with your walking with walking now so I think it is important to enjoy in present moment to satisfying with the present moment so if you have the three quality the criteria then you can call it you are a Content opposing the community said that such one is call a Content appalling so I think if we look at this definition your conductor passing and then you will understand Buddha's Daphne contentment so and then we need to we need to understand our contentment by discussing other factors so later we'll do it so one of the Dave Vance asked the boda the man's who are living in the forest this they seem to be very happy and their appearance is serene and calm they don't even though they don't have anything so what they have is one ball and small hat no not the house round not the monasteries not big we're not like not not like this so what they have is the Ambo and once at all ropes and one hat but they seem to be very happy and their appearance is serene and cam and one of the Devas surprisingly as so the Buddha said that they do not regret the past they do not regret the past they do not learn for the future and they they just live in the present moment for that reason their appearance is serene and cam so if you look at this Laurent in the commentary define the meaning of contentment and then by looking at that teachings particular teachings even though the commentry didn't mention I think that so here if we look at the teachings of the Buddha the man's even though they live in the forest even though they don't have anything other than the ball to go for being a part of now once a tow-rope and once more had they are happy but more most of them they stay under the tree even they don't have a place to Alan but they seem to be very happy and then you you look at some more demands in Thailand so this day live are the this day maintain forest rotation so the minds are living the forest in Thailand stay very popular but they seem to be very happy right even though they don't have anything the reason is they have contentment the reason is they have contentment but here three criteria number one should not regret the past whether you're a negative or positive trying not to be regret whether you have done good things or whether you have done an awesome things bad things don't regret don't go back the best in such a way then you can go back to to the past fine thinking with the mindfulness and clarity or mine you can think but don't go back to the past with a lot of regret and remorse so if you have a request and remorse regarding with your past you don't have this way contentment right that's very important then once you're not long for the fusion normally people want to go to the future right so when I became an adept I would have a more freedom when I became a graduate upon scene I will get a job when I have a good job then I have more salary like this we are living we are longing for the past but we we forgot the present moment and then that is very important the present moment so we're not the famous famous writer in the 20th century in Myanmar not a very famous write down so one of the journalists asked the question so now you are very famous in Yama so when was you are this moment in your life and the rider copy morning and he answer when I was trying to became a female person my highest happy moments is when I was trying to become if we must pass him and look at this this design side very significant I believe that he I don't know know whether he is stay in the present moment not but here if we listen if we listen his answer we can know that he is not living in the present moment no he is one of the most famous writer in Yama but it is not his happiest moment right but he said that the moment he is trying to began if we must write him he go back to the past so that past more man already gone he is not living in the present moment by looking at his interview then we can decide that he is not reckoned upon sin so that me even though he became a very famous writer in Yama not contented the reason is not staying in the present moment so we should be the present moment should be the happiest moment in our life even though you have a fatal diseases right now it should be the happiest moment in your life even though you're going to die in tomorrow this time should be the happiest moment in your life we should try to stay in the present moment then only you will be can a condo deposit so if you have a contentment you'll be happy that is very important right that's that is the definition of contentment very meaningful and comprehensive right acaba everything so that is contentment then I also want to share so one of the another definition about contentment so umma cha is my English teacher he is whereas Petitte and now he is he one of the famous English teacher Yama and I study my English and him and I I hear his definition of contentment when I was studying English then I didn't write down him in the book but it reflects so his teachings reflect my mind every time every time so that is the his definition of contentment so I like it for that reason I want to share today the only two criteria very easy to remember number one trying your best in your job trying your best in your relationship trying your best when you are steady trying your best anything right anything even my Dhamma talk I'm trying my best even mine teachings in the classes I try my best right the second one is very important be contented with the result I think that is a more clear definition of contentment so after trying hard people are not contented with the result of the trial in your study in your relationship so in your job anything right we try our best but we are not happy the reason is we don't have contentment and then is for everyone actually I listen happy to listen one of the advice by Thomas speaker from Thailand and as far as I remember it is a suggestion for the Dhamma speaker and he said that we are always talking giving the demo talks sometime it may not walk sometime your talk may not be very good it is not very clear to the audience that you have a a bad response from the audience but be a sabot so they are a time that we cannot do right be a sabot be a sabot ain't a very important advice for the Tomas speaker actually is is really for us it right sometimes we teach the lessons so we cannot clarify we cannot make very clear points for the audience but after talking and we have a little bit of depressions here right then I'm in those time I right away remember his advice PS a bit so there are some time what that we cannot do well so we have to assume it that is nothing but contentment we try our best be contented with the result whether it is good or bad so you're trying your best in your relationship number one whatever it may be there may be negative and positive it doesn't matter can be contented with the result in your steady in your job trying your best if you have a negative impact or negative result it doesn't matter a sabot you have diseases in your body trying to cure right trying to cure your best be contented with the result one years ago when Oh our de bode has he Assyria diseases Syria disease and she went to key path so she said that let it be then we trying to encourage trying to treat trying to treat the disease so whether it is a good and Pedraza doesn't matter keep it a sabot then she decided to cure heart diseases no my Denis was the effect all mokey were all Makua so we have to try our best number to be contented with the result that is very important every every everywhere trying to make money trying your best be content that how much whatever you have right whatever you have trying to be can someone some or something right trying your best be contender with the result I think there is a very clear definition of contentment okay then I hope that you understand the definition of contentment right now the contentment is the high wave how much how much you have it doesn't matter how much money you have it doesn't matter if you have if you are content if you are satisfied with what you have that is a great event of course if you have more and we can enjoy life but if you do not have this satisfaction in overweight you will not be happy so the Rosetta happiness the regional happiness in your life because of lack of contentment and then our contentment is very important to have a happiness in our life I think that is the answer you may know you may know that Putin right they put any people are the happiest people in the world so if you say like this as you all know that Putin II people are very very poor compared to other countries they are still happy so the reason is they have a contentment right for that reason they are happy socially I'm not telling that Parvati is good I'm not telling of course if we are very happy if we're very rich if we are very worthy and if we have a Content contentment the best the best right of course what you have is largely Kannada with the satisfaction for that reason or when you look at the English dictionary so you will find that contentment they were defined that happiness or satisfaction often because of thing that you have so that is the definition but according to Buddhism whether you have more or less it doesn't matter if you have a contentment you are richer person the rich person you are a word upon sin because if you are contented with what you have then we can call it a conductor passing right then I will discuss one by one then if you a question just raise right just raise are you a happy person yes I know that you will continue and quite sure right you are contented with your husband with the hulls you live and the time you are spending and think that that is because of contentment we can clearly see that God if you are not satisfied with your status with your husband or wife with your family no no happy right no happy so here I want to ask are you happy with the place where you are still now are you happy to stay in Singapore yeah you are continually passing I will say that your condition passing until now that satisfaction or contentment regarding with your place will make you happy passing and that is very important so we have to be contented the places where we are staying now if you are not satisfied if you are not contented you will feel a happy quite sure right I mean in your environment you might see that zombie bear they left Singapore they leave Singapore the reason is they are not satisfying with the place where they live and I mean some BB I mean not not all the beeping some people may leave Singapore the reason they want to stay other countries because they are not contented with a Singapore but for them is good if they are not happy here just leave but some people they are not happy to stay in Singapore and a lot of complaints until that those BB are not contented the government they have the economic situation they have the lies dying in Singapore right so even though we have a very very uh wanna see it complicated lifestyle in Singapore you have to be very satisfied with this otherwise you will feel unhappy if you like Singapore you are contingent upon scene if you like the place the heart you still you are a conductor policy that is very important concept so I stay in my village three years and then after 20 years of mine stay in my village I moved to mandala mandala is the second capital city in Miami a very big one regarding with the religious studies so this is his cinta so if you if you got a degree from mandala so you are highly respected so when I was 12 years old I moved to mandala for religious studies as a novice I am very happy I'm very happy to stay in mandala so I stay there about 11 years so Mandela became my my home just like my home very familiar and I love to stay there and I think that even I may go other places one day I will come back to Manderley below because I laugh mandala then at the age of 22 I incur a degree then for my future dream I moved to yong-go Yangon is at the time at the first capital city capital city of Miami and of course this is a the younger is the center or education and business and everything by the time even the government reside there so when I stay when I arrive young goal I move because of my future dream I'm not happy for about three months I'm no way accommodated there though I mean I I remember most of the time my life Amanda Lee Amanda Lee I feel like very honest II relax and move more freedom so after three month I became we're accommodating Yongle and I'd be very happy the nine became happy buzzy in yangon so that me of course for three men I'm not happy but I'm trying to fit in the environment so in that way and became a happy person the place where I stay then I stayed there for four years then I go to Sri Lanka for my master degree the when I went to Sri Lanka Sri Lanka is totally different with the me Emma okay in full people the language everything even even not close to Singapore is a we have a different we can call it civilization and different we are thinking so anyway we have the same religion Buddhism for that reason I go there for my master degree of course in the the first one or two men not happy I stay there because of my education then I'm after I stay to mend so I became very happy I'm trying to fill in where is D right trying to have contentment where I stay then I mean very happy so I stay there for four years so even aunt in that sweet linka will be the best country for me other than Yama so that me I'm very happy I have a contentment with the place where I stay so with our contentment with our satisfaction I will not be happy so there are many mang's Thomas banks who are not happy in salina for one year two years they want to go back because they don't have a contentment regarding with the full the Bieber they are dealing with so they are not happy so they stay there they trying they did not try to fit the environment right to stay for that really no happy for me by the time aunt in that ceiling I will be my second choice other than Gemma then after the informant I was invited to come to Mangala we Hara Singapore but I didn't think about is more familiar with the Burmese culture because so many Burmese are more familiar with the Sri Lanka so when I write Singapore of course are for walk for about six months since t remember Sri Lanka I still remember my friends so occasionally I talk to them so I miss my life in Sri Lanka for about three or six months I mean forget about my life in Sri Lanka I'm very happy to stay in Singapore so I mean very happy the place where I stay satisfying and contented the place where I stay it is not because Singapore is very rich a very clear country but because there's my second nature I'm trying to fit in the place where I stay I'm trying to pry this contentment the nine sometimes in that if I go and stay in the forest I wear be a happy person as well so the reason is that Khan hitman is second date I in my mind I'll be happy wherever eins did so here if you are happy with the place where you stay with the house where you belong to you will be a happy bouncing you have contentment horrible if you are not happy if you are not satisfied with the place where you live with the house where you live what will you do I have a two examples I left two places trying no I'm not happy one place as in up a Miami so my teacher asked me to come to go there and teach small Salmonella for the ASM so I stayed there for three month the mind teacher gave me a lot of favors and he provides everything I need and he he told me he were higher it the best English teacher to learn English I'm not happy to stay there even though I have a lot of favors a lot of grantees from my teacher I'm not happy to stay there then going against mine teacher wishes then I moved to Yankel the reason is I'm not happy to stay there for that reason I left the place to remind stay and try my very best and try my best to teach young Salmonella then I left the place that you see the best the best answer right the best answer and there is one of the place in Yangon as way I'm not happy then I left that place without any problem so here what I want to say is if you are not happy with the place if you are not satisfying with the place trying to moved right you can move it if you cannot move what will you do trying to accommodate you say right trying to fit in in that environment trying to pry dissatisfaction actually the places the houses in Singapore are more glorious than other poor country right fine thinking like this then you can practice contentment and then that is very important but here I want to highlight one important factor that you make you some people make a happy they have in Bali Mahna Mahna Mahna is a comparison you trying to compare with other people without wisdom without mindfulness and indeed are for those who have learned a bit Emma you know the what mana sometime naturally we're trying to compare with other baby and other places we're trying to compare if you don't have mindfulness and wisdom it will lead to depression and a happiness that is very important mana or egoistic comparison normally we can translate as the ego is this central or comparison you're trying to compare with the other person I am law than that passing based on ego I am higher than that passing based on ego that conceit arrogance arises in your mind so both higher and lower comparison based on your ego no good it is a wholesome mint estates in a bar in politicians but you can compare with other person you can compare with other places based on mindfulness and wisdom this person is less educated than me for that reason I need to understand whatever he said that is comparison but based on understanding based on mindfulness you can compare but with the mindfulness and clarity or the mind or understanding so this contentment are arises mostly because of comparison you compare with the other houses right but if you don't have mindfulness and understanding it really do dissatisfaction it will lead to a happiness even depression then you can call sometime you compare your file even you're following model right you can compare your income you are you compare with your education level normally if you compare based on ego your ego right I'm higher they are lower I am lower they are higher if you compare prison you are safe safe surface or surface view or egoistic comparison it will lead to happiness and depression even arrogant if you are higher arrogant so and in that so I think one of the cause of our dissatisfaction or this contentment is the person mana or ego is the comparison right then let's go to next one are you happy with you you are staying with with your parents with your sister and brothers with your spouse are you happy Sammy's a not happy Sami see happy those people who are happy they have a contentment right those who are not happy might be two reasons because maybe not to reason only one reason not satisfying with right not satisfied no contentment so yeah what I want to say is if you don't like that person you can leap is it easy can you leave no can all can all right we have to look at Laura a lot of things right lot of things two months ago one of the ladies approached me and asked me is it all right to divorce my husband and I answer it is perfectly all right according to Buddhism there's no restrictions but you have to consider a lot of things you are cheering and you are heretics and families and parents environment after lot of considerations even you diamonds there is no no negative negative things in Buddhism you have full freedom to choose your partner the reason is and in that she wanted a divorce and she fee that is guilty in our mind ix oh ha but fairly alright but in your part you have to think a lot there is no no guilt no offense in Buddhism so if you don't like it pants in you can divorce so I think that is very important so I'm not encouraging I'm not encouraging for the divorce but to let our know you know Buddhist perspective the reason is other religions so if you get married not allowed to time boss if you divorce if you are a lady it's really a lady you freak it in you have seen right you're very sinful embodies in there's no such a things so you get married because of mutual agreement which we understand in if you don't have a mutual agreement mutual understanding I think perfectly all right to divorce so here what I want to say is he not encouraging to divorce so we have to think a lot about cheering life is not about getting married it is about many things right many things so even you stay with the a very bad has been a very bad wife you can still find happiness in other things the most important things even though you are partner you are spouse is not good then you can stay contentment in your life be as a bit if you cannot divorce but if you can if there are a lot of good conditions why not there's no kid no there's no offence regarding with the time boss right the just a zombie right as example how about if you have a a very bad cheering how will you deal with but you have to give a good education it could like for them but if they are not very not very good to you I did no way right no way if they we can adapt right then they can stay with other family how about you appearance and everything what I means it not only the parents the parents we have a responsibility to take care of them right so that reason some people they live with their parents they do not live with their parents but this day provide everything they need right so what I want to say is of course you may not like some people and you may not like the people or staying with you but if you cannot avoid it you have to accept you are situation you are testing to be there to stay with them try not to make any problem with them if you are a very good person trying to make friend with them so trying to find the space to become a good passing with them so I did know you can do it right you can do it finally if you're going to do anything why not there's no way separation right separation if the separation is the person so why not right so here if you are happy with you you are staying with we can say that you have contentment actually sometime there's no choice so if you are staying with a very difficult people you have to put up with them right you have to put up with him there's no choice so when I was the NI as a policeman we have to stay together right so they are sent my chief up monks and novices so I think that if this pan scene left the monasteries lead the monasteries so this monastery will be a very pleasant monasteries so if he leaves the monasteries very happy but another medieval monks and novices came in right so actually these are we call it net right Annette nun says even with our body we went a very healthy bori but sickness came in diseases came in nun safe right nun safe so there's no control we cannot control in certain cases just like the people who you are dealing with sometime no choice but you have to – you have to change your attitude you have to change your attitude that mean you have to be contented with that passing there will be a lot of problematic people atypical people to do with you have to put up with them even you say might be a problematic person right look at yourself even you might be very difficult person to the width you have to look at yourself comparing yourself right sometimes you can give me heavy a better understanding but I understanding so if you are happy with the people you are dealing with you have contentment most importantly here this is the last question are you happy what you have and who you are that obvious and the most important question normally the people who are not happy they are not contented with what they have even though they are very rich they are not happy they weren't more they were more because they don't have a contentment even though they are beautiful the handsome they are not happy because they are not contented so they are many people who afraid off their ring care in their face the gray hair in the head right they are thus I know they all eat in their body they are happy and they trying to cover with the makeup they dine their hair so no studies fine with what they have right so that is the cause of unhappiness for that reason the Buddha suggested that we have to consider we have to contemplate our save one day we will grow oh one day we will grow oh one day we were cruel by contemplating in that way and we see reality the real nature our life even though there are a lot of gray hairs in your head a lot of ring care in your face no depression the reason is you are contented with what you have with the real the real needs are all things so even though you have a feather disease like a cancer you can find it satisfaction right you fully a sabot if you accept it with what you belong to what you have then contentment if you are contingent you're very happy right very happy another thing is who you are there is very important right there is very important who you are in your office who you are in your family who you are in the Mangala we Hara I said it right a sabot if you cannot accept the current situation never when trying your best right you stay have you are oh now your own camera trying your best have to be content be content with the rosette you try your best in your family no very acknowledge that you are you go passing be content that right trying your best in your office show who you are in your office but nobody agree that you are eco passing you cannot perform be contented with the result and then that is very important right here what the ball I want to point out here is still in the present moment right stay in the present moment me be contented with the present moment the present appearance a lie the present status in your life the present salary what you have present possessions and the company or anyways be contented right be contented with this normally if you are taking holiday trip trying to enjoy present moment right leave every problem in your office behind then only you were enjoying life right otherwise simply be cool holiday trip and many they bring a lot of problem from the office so they forgot to enjoy in present moment right signing that that's very important the Buddhist definition of contentment right you can go back to the past go to the future but without any regret or anxiety with the fool of mindfulness and clarity of mind most importantly stay in the present moment right stay in the present moment that's very important so who you are as you all know that even recently the very famous actor commits suicide the reason is he is not contented with his life the way he is right and there are many rich people who commit suicide the reason is the loss in their company actually they have a lot of money and a lot certain amount of money in the India business and they commit suicide the reason is they are not satisfied they are not contented with who they are so the reason what the Buddha said is very correct right very correct contentment is degraded with the contentment is the greatest weight so if your content that whether you're poor or rich doesn't matter you will feel happy you will finally happiness in your life so if you are happy and satisfying what you with what you have and who you are whoever you are whether you are men or women or such a full person or Philly a person it doesn't matter even though you are with the fitter diseases trying to assert it trying to cope with those difficult situations try your best and be contented with the result even you have a fatal diseases you'll be trying to cure right then trying to accept with the result then you will have happiness right you will have happiness then I went to coat one of the I don't know whether it is a famous or not I mean I find it very interesting so it illustrates our our mind in January friend gray pasa from Austria from Europe he is known as are known for his dramas he's a writer and he said this one as you'd live in the future normally yam Bieber longing for the future is pairing for the future future future future future right so try not the best educate themself trying to cut a tea green get married cheering but still is Peri in the future they forget present moment so the adapt leaps in the past normally OPP they live pickle but the past very often when I was yen Singapore is not like this you have a very enjoyable life here right now it is right so they go back to the past very often they fo can't present situation if you are talking like this the yam BB will not like it because this is their camera right so there was bond this time Singapore is one of the best countries but do not compare their life with their with your life right so we have to understand we have to understand normally a deaf people or OPP live in the past so they forgot to live in the present moment and he said that no one rightly knows how to live in the present moment if you are an OPP and aura passing try not to cover to the past right stay in the present moment be contented who you are we contend that our the many you have the how you have and the Bieber you are dealing with so just stay in the present moment right do not go to the past that isn't me you cannot think about the past you can think about the past but when you are thinking the past in the future with the fool of mindfulness and clarity of the mind if mindfulness and clarity of the mind stay in your mind there's no place for negative mental state just like anxiety right you can think about the best you can think about the future fully mindful fully aware right so that is I know very very honest II reflect our life normally people think that I want to be can a baby right I want to become a cheering the reason is in those time no worry for business no no worry for the family no worry for the food clothing the parents provide them normally we normally go back to the best I think that is not a correct attitude so that is a attitude of this content to people so we don't want we don't even we don't have such a one you know live in the prison boom you may have a lot of problem in your life try to accept them try your best to solve those problem and be contented with the result right so in this way you are staying in the present moment and I think that I have been talking about one hour and twenty minutes then I want to conclude my talk with the the bullish deaf nation buying commentators the criteria three criteria of contentment number one wine should not regret the past you can think about the past but when you are thinking about the past no regret no remorse no reparation once you're not long for the past you can think about your future you can make you a future plane but don't think about don't create for the future so that create some time if you have a lot of difficulty ahead anxiety worry came in right so even you're thinking about your future full of mindfulness and full of clarity of the mind most importantly once you be satisfied with the present once you stay in the present moment if you have a lot of happy moment in the present moment enjoying them but if you have a lot of problem in your life right now trying to assert them trying your best be contented with the result so in this way you can live in the present moment so if you are fulfilling or Det criteria and you will be a contender pausing so if you are a Content upon scene you will be happy all the time I guarantee the poor a grantee okay thank you so much any question yes Thank You banty for the very thoughtful talk and it's a hour for cheated a of these people here to listen to this now asking on behalf of people who on the sick bay died a situation where she no longer can't talk though she can listen so how to express this contentment to her now oh they miss you must be contented with her illness now okay very good question for that near turkey policy right died in passing so I think that we have to use a very a very suitable what right so in Yama will be very famous Seattle but if we must monk who normally talk the people who are going to time actually he lives in he just sit down nearby in those bars in and he normally talk to them very slowly very tender words and the main message of his teachings is like oh like oh don't grab so many things if you grab so many things it heart so even your life even your body don't try and do don't try to grab let go let go but of course this is a very very height for those who cannot accept we have to use a very clever usage right usage and we up to this we have to talk depend on their education level education here me religious education level and then for those who are landed in Buddhist teachings we can use such one the theory are that chainsaw annette the teaching saw non-safe so there are many things that that are out of our control including diseases right even though some are very even though they take care of their head then the disease I came in so out of control so as I earlier said that try your best be container with the rosette so they try not to as a dying person especially for you all who stay alive one day you might encounter such experiences try not to crepes normally I mean share and there are many people who have a heart that story the story of bikuni care mom he she is a german bikuni and she talked about her near-death experience so she suffer from cancer breast cancer diseases four four and five years so one time she was in the hospital bed so she was lying down and she was a city of meditator so she noted that she just away i what is happening in our mind in our body the one time she noted that the life energy is moving from the body she cannot do anything she just aware that energy is moving from the body from the food from the knee from the tide moving as a serious meditator she just aware what is happening no resistance but there is no sulphur there is no suffering in our mind just energy is leaving she does not identify that energy as ha she does not identify her body as a body she just aware right no grasp in just awareness then suddenly the daughter came in that are the daughters see her life so later she said that mine that I know suffering so she said that the dynein moment is a pleasant if we we don't have a no existence if we are not grasping anything if we let go at they are just aware what is happening in your body so until now find that time this if there's no crab spin if there's no craving for it just fully aware and clarity or the mind and full of mindfulness then there's no suffering at all you just look like just like you are looking at your body the way they are that's all so there's no suffering at all so she said that the dire moment is pleasant if there's no resistance so I didn't know we have to look at based on the level of religious education or the passing right there are many people who learn Buddhist teachings who understand when they have courage to fit with that because of how easy they letting go right letting go okay any other questions you can send up if you feel shy to ask can send a question to this number and I'll read out your questions one day I think um contentment may not always be positive if there is over contentment we did not lead to a state of complacency that you just accept status quo and you know no desire to move on yeah comments contentment and complacency right I mean correcting English what contentment and come containment may lead to complacency I mean if complacency always in question everyone misinterpret the definition of contentment I say complacency that's very important as a Buddhist for that reason I write down I only see the definition of my teacher English teacher trying your best content with the result so he always he always ever sighs complacency is Nora contentment so the Buddha have a lot of energy a lot of effort to suppress his teachings when the Buddha attained enlightenment the Mara dv1 came in and he talked to the border now you attain enlightenment you can die the Mara River will talk to the Buddha and the Buddha said that as long as my disciples do not have understanding and enlightenment of my teaching I were no time so here for that reason the Borah make Laura effect Laura energy to supply his teachings he spent 45 years to teach people right going from one leads to another he spent according documentary he's he sleep only two hours so he make a lot of effect so that Mia of course the Bora is contented with what he have but he tried his best he is contented with the part so what I what I want to say emphasize is he we normally misinterpret the definition of contentment with the complacency so he am stay in the present moment me so we we try our best in the present boom right even you have a lot of problem in the present moment so those problem right do not blame something you have done in the past right don't have a try not to have a regret and remorse something you have done in the past just focus in the present moment stay in the present boom so then only contentment right you content you have a content you are contented even you have a problem even you have a diseases that's very important if you don't have a containment and you will think that why me right why not others that is a very important concept attitude or the contentment complacency is not a contentment right so we are to try our best but be contented and be accept the result question yeah Ponte this one questions here okay if everyone is contented will there be worry affect the progress in the society actually many question many people ask that question right so people think that we are living in the competitive world right without computation you cannot survive until now we have to understand contentment we try our best right so when you are compared when you compare with other people and other nations it's really in the context of Singapore right normally Singapore is a competitive environment right so the company are trying to compete one another so for that reason people have a lot of stress right lot of stress in their job until now I think it is no it could win right it's not really good it's not good for Singaporeans so that is in me the shooting compete but when they are competing they can compete with other people as I earlier said that there is no mana right there's no mana if you compare with the ego right if I lost everything we're gone you think based on ego right but you can compete with other people you can compare with other countries you can try your best right but with mindfulness understanding so we have our own free phase right we have our own face so people said that mr. Obama retire from his presidency at the age of 50 plethora 50 plans but mr. tramp became president at the 807 tea plants right so we are living with our own face right so we have to understand of course we can try our best don't compare with other countries don't compare with other people based on our own ego if you compare then then this contentment arise so even though you are very advanced in education and ignore me if you are not if you don't have a contentment then that you have the data you have I did you will not have happiness so you have a happiness if other countries are doing well ahead of them and depression what came in right so here so we have to understand this complacency and policy computation right you can compete but when you are competing with other other people you can train your best but you are you make ready to accept the result right whether you are performing well or you're not performing way or whether you lost or what whether you lose or whether you won't win so you have to accept with the rosette so then only you can accept it you can satisfy with the status and with the possession what you have so then only you will be very happy right very happy so for that reason I think that our contentment is the created wealth that's very important Singapore is very rich right very rich but if you compare with the rich happy countries other countries you cannot compare right but if you compare poor countries so you are right so we have to be content contented with the place where we are now and status and position a money you have to how you have and deplete the people you are dealing with so then only you will have a happy person right happy person so we have a savvy in in the world so they normally announce the most happiest country in the world so most of the countries are from Europe not even United States not even Singapore so the most happiest countries are from the development from Europe so the reason is so they ignore me is very stable so their education is very stable so they have a very full rest for not from their job for that reason their life is very honestly relaxed and Hana say for that reason there the lot is more enjoyable so they became happier people in the world right so here it is a quite natural that just like in Singapore just like a Korea and Japan a United States so they are trying right they are trying to go at the top they are struggling they are competing with other people right so less spare time less rest time so for that reason and the people in Singaporeans are no happier than the people in the Europe right those countries and then for those who go there you can compare very easily right very easily so the life is very very relaxed right then the live in Singapore so jelly is very straightforward comparison right so we have to use our our understanding our mindfulness to compare those country of course compared to a poor countries the life in Singapore is very pleasant right pleasant but if we compare with the country in the Europe until the live in Singapore very competitive so I think Singapore is going go into that way so one day I'm the in the need very near future and then the live in Singapore be more your legs more free time the company will be more honest a more relaxed on right they are not forcing the the policy there the Walker right the Watkins and there will be the time sing what will go there I didn't know the government is trying to be like this right because I think my chest on the way to go there but compared to other country many countries so you are going ahead top manatee many countries right many countries so you have to enjoy in it you have to satisfy in it you have to contend with this so then only happiness way ultimately coming right another question 20 okay how should we deal with and help people who are discontented time trying to tear them without contentment you want they were not be happy trying their best and be contented with the result right very easy situations ok any question it's the last one sincere actually I don't know what he is asking I just read oh I'm very content and happy coming to MV temple for lessons and attend puja we have various what advantage and teachers and classmates I should say I'm half contented when come to personal life or I should say my contentment come from here my question is I'm contented to have failure failure children but not with my spouse other than that I'm very contented especially coming to envy temple and c19 compared to other people you are a happy person I would say that generally right so if you are contented with the Mangala we Hara you can come if you are not contented with the Mangala we Hara you can go to other tambay I'm happy that happy to hear that you are happy and you're content to come and spend the time here scient in that town bangla we Hara is a very good place to learn right of course there are many things you may not know behind the curtain but it doesn't matter so you our main reason is to come and study right to come and study so there may be some time you might see there are many who see the discouraging things to know about Mangala we are right you might find 1d but if you find them trying your best to solve those reasons right then be contented with the result actually relatively Mangala we are is and then one of the best place to learn about is education we were a lot of classes now we have a very systematic puja right so you can choose variety of our religion learning right religious studies very good so if you are happy and we are very happy to hear that so I can say that you are not wrong to come to MB so I need good place to learn regarding with your personal life happy that you are contented with your result or your children right so it is good but regarding with your spouse or with with the husband we have to assign earlier said that we have to team a lot of things right in our life sometimes they are something that are out of our control so then maybe happen negatively so we have to evaluate based on percentage right percentage now everything is sorry not every just like right now so no everything will go smooth right we have to look at based on percentage so we have to look at this on percentage right so there are many things that will be happening in our life that we do not like but we have to look at how many percent right how many percent so things we can change we can change things we cannot change we have to adapt it just like a cancer right if suppose a cancer are separate in your body trying your best to cure it right if you cannot cure it is out of control beyond your control right then ASAP it is a bit as it is if you assert bit no fear at all just like like Unni quema right then she she just aware she sorry sorry and they're very important so she just aware what is happening in our body right she just ascended she let go things happening there's no suffering at all right then if I look at three areas you happy you are happy to come and study in Bangla Yara you find happiness here you very good and you are satisfied with your cheering very good but your only one things right you can compare Heidi as I earlier said that too time for a husband is not really easy you have to consider a lot right whether it is good or bad that if you think that it is a good way to time force why not no give no offense right no offensive Buddhism so what is in keep you with freedom we are on our own camera but I'm not encouraging to time force I have to I have to I have to emphasize I have to repeat again I'm not encouraging trying to assert it even the negative part of our life we have to assert it just like me maybe I will conclude my talk with my wittmeyer I will conclude my talk with my appearance right because of mine karma I became like this right I am picking like this but I can try my very best to plastic surgery to change my appearance I'm gonna try my best right but I'm gonna change my appearance by undergoing plastic surgery in the Thailand or Korea then I will be more effective right more appealing but if I do if I do surgery if I do surgery then there'll be a lot of negative effects right but here my papa's living in this world easy to find happiness right to find happiness as long as I'm happy with my appearance as long as my happy as a Buddhist monk painting that is minion life right meaning your life until now to find happiness is very important so contentment is a very crucial factors a crucial factors to get happiness in our life thank you so much thank you so much that fall sorry for the the last question okay I'm sorry I because of the time consumed bie we cannot answer all the questions but I gotta make one announcement on the trough of November there be another dumb at all so today's supposed to be the last time at all but we are very fortunate to invite a oisin cluster from miami the topic of the part will be we pass on our meditation so if you are 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